Why We Should Care about Women's Rights Around the World
I have always said that there are 3 things I don't discuss amongststrangers or family and friends: money, politics, and religion. I don't like controversy, or hurt feelings, or truthfully any kind of heated discourse. It is not because I don't stand for something. Trust me, that is far from the truth. I've just never been a fan of argument or antagonism. It gives me an icky feeling in my gut. But what I do appreciate is a discussion that can spark positive advocacy, awareness, and most importantly respect for differing opinions. So shedding some light on the topic of women's rights can and should be something we should all be open to -- male or female, young or old. It has and always will be a part of the world we live in, as it should be.
I recently read an article in the Washington Post about proposed new divorce laws that may take place in Italy. I also read an article about the 2018 elections in Brazil. I know...you may be thinking, why should we care about what might happen in another country? Or, perhaps you come from the train of thought that we have our own issues here in our very own country. So, let's fix our own problems before worrying about anyone else's.
So why do I care and why should you? Because we don't live in a bubble. We cannot ignore what is happening in other parts of the world because we are ONE WORLD. And most importantly, because these articles I mentioned are about WOMEN. That is why I care and so should you. They are not about politics or about marriage/divorce.
Proposed changes in Italy's divorce laws are meant to promote "perfect co-parenting." What does that even mean? In theory, it sounds great right? Well, what the law could entail is putting an end to child support and making custody a 50/50 split. So, again, in theory women become equal stakeholders in their child's well-being. The article in the Post does mention both sides - that this new law could result in increased poverty rates among divorced mothers who may struggle with finding employment OR that women will be empowered to take an equal role financially and emotionally by providing what the child needs while in her care and by not slandering her ex as is unfortunately the case in many divorced families. But what this also means is that the father will take equal responsibility financially and emotionally.
Now I'm not stating that this isn't possible. I am a mom of 3 and happily married to my spouse. I believe we are equal. I don't work full-time outside of the house. But I do work full-time and then some within our home caring for our children and managing our household. I also don't compare how much he or I contribute financially or emotionally.
My hope in making myself aware of our rights as women whether it is in Italy, Brazil, Asia or the United States is this: we need to be open to discussion. We need to be open to POSITIVE discourse. There are 2 sides to every story, to every proposed legislative change, and to everything that happens within a family. While we cannot completely avoid arguments or worse riots and protests, we can control our own emotions and awareness of what is happening to the WORLD OF WOMEN. Let's lead by example for future generations and be aware. Let's open our minds to change. Let's be accountable and hold ourselves and our partners accountable in making women's rights a part of all of our lives. --Sherry Milia