Self-Esteem in an Instagrammed World



Scrolling through Instagram is a daily activity for me. I open that app more times a day than I’d like to admit. My feed is full of people sharing their lives for the world to see. Friends from high school, old co-workers, reality stars, YouTubers, celebrities… And there’s usually a common theme. They all look pretty damn happy. 

They’re flaunting their bikini bodies. Their makeup selfies are perfectly on point. They showcase their progress at the gym. And there are always pictures of the healthy, picturesque food they cook themselves every day.

Then I look at my own life. Not the one I project on social media. The real one. Comparing it to these beautiful pictures, showing what appears to be amazing and exciting lives, I feel like crying. I don’t have the body I want. My makeup never looks that perfect. Do I go to the gym as much as they do? No. How do they have time to meal prep? I definitely don’t.

Does this sound familiar?

Social media allows us to showcase the life we think is worth sharing. We post about the good things. And so does everyone else.

But it's hard to remember the part about everyone else.

Looking at other people's lives the way they display them can make us feel like our life is nothing in comparison. We may have wonderful things happen, but there is a lot of hardship in between. And that’s something no one wants to share.

As women, we are constantly bombarded with “expectations”, especially with the world of social media literally in the palm our hands. Every time we open our Instagram or Facebook or Snapchat, social media is telling us how we “should be”.

It’s devastating. We are always comparing our lives to the seemingly perfect lives of others. We actually believe that these people are doing it all, without a care in the world. We sit here, struggling not to cry because we feel so pathetic.

There’s another side to this, too. We base our self-worth on the number of likes or thumbs up we get on our posts. When those notifications pop up on our home screen, we breathe a little sigh of relief… “Okay, people care about me.” When we see that we have a new follower or subscriber, we feel validated… “People think I’m worth paying attention to.”

The heartbreaking truth is that so many girls and women struggle with self-esteem. And social media has contributed to that immensely. We are built up by positive comments and torn down by negative ones, more often than not from people we don’t even know.

This is a problem. This is a big problem.

Social media is obviously not going away, and with that, this epidemic of low self-esteem isn’t either. As girls and women, we need to come together and encourage one another. We need to build each other up and remind each other that it’s okay not to have a “perfect life” because NO ONE does.

At Too Pretty, we have always shared a message of female strength. We have always said that women can do anything they set their minds to, no matter what the world says. We are telling you now that YOU ARE SPECIAL. Live your best life. There will be laughter and there will be tears. That’s how it is for everyone.

Don’t let what you see on your Instagram feed make you feel that you aren’t good enough. Don’t let the number of likes that you get or the number of followers you have dictate how you value yourself. Your life is so much more than just a pretty picture.

The way we live our lives and the type of people we are is what makes us beautiful, regardless of the world's "beauty" standards. We can share our lives on all social media platforms, just as we are. We need to feel proud of the moments that make us who we are and share that with the world. 

We want to see your proud moments or just you MOMENTS! Let's all show the world that there is no set definition of beauty. It's what you do, not what you look like. Post an Instagram picture and caption telling us what makes you the amazingly beautiful person you are! Tag us and use the hashtag #nevertoopretty. We have the power to change beauty standards, one step at a time.